We’ve all met or known at least one person who has a HUGE ego (and if you haven’t then maybe YOU are the one with the big ego). Yes, that one insufferable person who thinks so highly of him/herself, who thinks almost everyone else is beneath them and incapable, the person who thinks they are the ultimate at either one thing or all things.
I think we can all agree that at least that aspect of a person is an annoyance that we sometimes have to put up with. But, is having a big ego always a bad thing? Is there any actual merit to it?
I would argue that, to a certain extent, yes. Hear me out. Let’s say we have someone with little to no ego. They would most likely have no confidence in themselves, would be easily swayed to negative comments that others might say about them, they would be unwilling to try new things, explore their own talents or hone their skills. In this kind of case, a little ego would actually be good for their confidence and give them some ambition to excel in what they do or pursue new things.
Of course, too much ego is no good. With too much ego, you become overconfident and blind to your own weaknesses. How can someone expect to better themselves if they don’t know their own weaknesses or aren’t willing to acknowledge that they even have weaknesses? Then, of course, there is the matter of behaviour. Having a huge ego might attract certain people to you, but it will mostly deter them. In other words, you won’t get many good friends if your ego is too big, and those you do attract will most likely not be very good friends, at least that’s what I believe. Of course, there are always exceptions that prove the rule, so don’t just take my word for it.
In short, I think having some ego is actually good for you, in fact, it’s probably necessary. But don’t let your ego get too big or else it will end up hurting you, one way or the other. All things in moderation.
Now, I am not a behaviour analyst or a psychiatrist or a psychologist, heck I’m not even a doctor. I’m just some random dude who his sharing his view on things on the internet. So do not take what I have said here seriously, I might think I’m right but I’m sure that there are people who can easily point out flaws in my logic. And that’s okay; if there are mistakes I’m open to them. After all, I want to become a better person and I would like to learn more about these kinds of things.
Do let me know what you think!