This post is not a psychological study and has no research to back it up; this is just my opinion I am sharing, so please bear that in mind as you read this.
I was looking back at some of the writings I’ve done in the past and as I was doing that, I noticed a few spelling and grammatical mistakes I had made which went completely over my head when I first wrote and read through it. I just dismissed this at first and simply corrected my mistakes. But later I started to wonder, why is it that when you just finish something you don’t notice a mistake. Then you look at it a week later and immediately notice all the errors.
What was it about the passage of time that changed our brains so that we could now see something that we simply couldn’t notice before? Was it because I was tired and that’s why I didn’t see it? Was it something else?
As I went along with this train of thought, I somehow ended up thinking about how time changes people. Like how when you’re a kid you like something, but then you become an adult and now you don’t like that thing anymore. And I came to a realisation.
When it comes to the development of our psychology, time plays the biggest role. Yes, what we go through obviously plays a role, but time can change all of that. Remember that embarrassing experience you had in school? You know the one which crippled you emotionally and made you wish you could just stay in your room and not see anyone for the rest of your life? A few years have gone by and now you can look at it and laugh. Why? Because you can look at it and realise it wasn’t as bad as you were making it out to be at the time.
Remember that time you were betrayed? Or that time you failed miserably? Or, how about that time your parents decided to show everyone at a party that thing you did as a baby which they thought was so cute and then everyone started to look at you and laugh, and all you could do was laugh with them while you were crying inside. What, that didn’t happen to you? Oh dear, well moving on.
The point I’m trying to make is that after a good amount of time has passed (months-years) since these incidents, you are able to look back at them objectively and put them as a brick or a pillar into your ever building character/psychology. At that very moment they might have looked like life and death situations, and they would absorb your entire mind because you just couldn’t see beyond them. Later, you are able to see them as lessons learnt, now that they are done.
The saying goes, “Time heals all wounds,” and that is true; but now when I look at it I feel like it could mean two things. One is the literal meaning, where no matter how bad something is, time will heal you. The other being that time can shape you into someone you might not even recognise.
Time plays the biggest role in your psychology because a lot can happen as time passes. You experience new things and those experiences, whether good or bad, change you. When something happens now you can’t always know what the result will be until time passes.
Did you make the right decision turning left instead of right? Should you have applied for that one job? Should you have clicked yes instead of no? You simply can’t say until time has passed.
So remember that whenever things aren’t going great and you don’t think much of yourself. Things will change, you will change, with time.