It’s not what you think/Outside the box: What’s worse? Failing or never doing it?

How many of you have given into the irrational fear of ‘if I don’t do it I won’t fail and I won’t get hurt?’ I have, many times, and I’m not at all happy about it. I am a late bloomer and there are a lot of things that people have done that I didn’t do until much later in life, heck there are somethings that I am still yet to do. To give you an idea of how late of a bloomer I am let me tell you this, you know how most children start talking by the age of one or two, I didn’t start talking till I was four. And that late blooming streak hasn’t ended.

Like I said there are still things I haven’t done which I want to do and the only reason I haven’t done them yet is fear, fear of failure, fear of rejection, a whole lot of fear that makes me feel like not doing it is the best option.  Of course this is absolutely silly because, well, I have done things that I once thought I would never do, things like exploring, going to parties, going to clubs, drinking alcohol, these were all things a part of me thought I would never do but I ended up doing them anyway; late for sure but I still did them. I won’t say I got it right all the time and there are times I wish I hadn’t done anything at all, but hey making mistakes is just part of the package.

There are some things I regret not doing before because now I know I could have done them; but at the same time a part of me still thinks that even if I did know I probably wouldn’t have been ready for any of it back then.

And that’s the point of this article: it’s not just about failing, it’s not just about deciding to do nothing because it seems like the better option, it’s about being ready. I’m not trying push you into doing anything because that doesn’t always work, but you should know that a lot of the time life will throw something your way even if you try to avoid it; and when that happens it won’t matter whether you are ready or not, you’ll end up having to do something, even if it does turn out to be a mistake.

It’s impossible to be ready for everything, life is too huge and complicated and even if our parents, our teachers and anyone else older than us give us advice about what to expect we still may not be ready for it. Everyone has their own pace and everyone has their own way of doing things, some people are fast and some are slow. Don’t push yourself too hard to do something that you’re not sure about just because you think you need to do it soon. But at the same time keep your eyes and ears open, live your life at your own pace and be yourself. You never know what life will throw your way and when it will throw it, but you know what? It’s fine if you’re not ready for it now, because one day you will be.

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