It’s not what you think/Outside the box: start out small

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One of the things that really gets me down more than anything else in the world, is failure. I create a goal for myself, I go in ready to complete the task at hand, and I fail, miserably; and as a result I feel miserable too. I know failure is a part of life and you should embrace and learn from it and become stronger and all that good stuff, but I still feel bad when I fail, no one can stop that.

After failing in so many things many times I think I’ve realised something. One of the reasons people tend to fail is that sometimes they set the bar too high or the goals they set for themselves are too lofty. Instead of setting such high goals, try setting more reasonable goals which you have a better chance of actually finishing.

For example, let’s say you’ve been given 100 pages worth of paperwork to do, and you decide to finish all 100 pages in one day, but the work turns out to be tougher than you thought and you don’t finish all 100. You failed at the objective you set for yourself and now you feel bad. So instead of setting the bar so high try lowering it to something more reasonable like 25 pages in one day, or maybe even 50 if you think you can pull it off. Now you have a better chance of finishing this goal than the other one and you feel good for actually finishing it.

Basically, you start out small and are happy with the little victories. I’m not saying having lofty goals is a bad thing, I’m just saying you need to be realistic, set small goals for yourself first, then when you get better at stuff you can set the bar higher and finish bigger goals.

Starting small isn’t about keeping things easy for yourself and staying where you are (that’s  depressing to a lot of people for a lot of reasons) it’s about keeping things realistic, making yourself happy, gaining confidence in yourself and your abilities, making yourself better and then going up a level. When you start exercising, you don’t jump the gun and start lifting 100 kg dumbbells, you’ll just hurt yourself. You start with 5 kg and work your way up as you get stronger.

We all have to start somewhere, so start small, keep the goals reasonable and aim for the lofty goals later, they’ll still be there when you’re ready for them.

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